Did you get clarity? “Absolutely!”

1) What was the problem you were trying to solve?

 

“I have been looking for another job for a few months, and all of a sudden I was stricken with doubt whether I should change positions. 

2) Did you get clarity?

​ Absolutely!​ Clarity is a process, it’s not black & white.  You have to find the underlying blind spots, dark places of denial, work through the trauma if there has been any (and for me, there definitely was).  There are so many interconnected but seemingly unrelated pieces to the puzzle, e.g. my relationships with husband and with my children who all live out of town.  Miriam Raquel provided a safe, non hurried, non judgmental space for me to explore my fears and what is stopping me from moving forward and why.  I appreciated her appreciation of the complexity of making decisions, never did she present any “I think that you should…”

3) What are the most satisfying shifts and changes that you’ve noticed for yourself?

​​a. Giving myself permission to feel my anger in my body without apologizing for it.  I need safe spaces to express it not only verbally, but also viscerally and physically, so that I can take the high road of being a polished professional that rarely loses her cool, but I am entitled to righteous indignation when my dignity is not respected. Getting in deep touch with my anger at my boss; honoring how abusive it really is allowed me to move forward.

b. I am entitled to protect my boundaries, especially when I am not treated with dignity and respect.

c. When people try to intimidate me, I can choose not to buy into their intimidation but in a dignified way find my own inner power.

Thank you very much for everything from the bottom of my heart!!! You are truly an awesome, powerful, woman and I am so, so grateful for your help!