Mind-body Wellness Tip:
Are You Willing?
Dear Awesome Woman,
Sometimes the most important question I can ask my clients is “Are you willing?” We may not realize – I certainly didn’t and can still fall into that funk – that we need to be willing to release old negative, limiting patterns of belief and be willing to try on more expansive, soul based, ones.
Like Joy. We may walk around saying that “oh, I want to have more joy in my life,” but then we complain and make excuses as to why we can’t. And I’m not saying that those excuses aren’t the best excuses in the world. I have the best ones sometimes. But if we stay in the excuses, we won’t get the joy. So we need to be willing to have Joy.
Or like Healing. Healing takes courage, compassion, honesty, and the willingness to change patterns, belief systems, situations. We may not even know that we’re believing what we’re believing. We may not even recognize that we are feeling angry, hurt, confused, manipulated, terrified, shamed etc. But when we can say to ourselves that we’re willing to heal, then we will be willing to be brave, honest, fiercely compassionate with ourselves, and get the help we need.
Sometimes the question to my clients is “Are you willing to release the need for that pattern, that way of thinking, that situation… etc.?” You could think that if something is causing someone unease or suffering that the answer would be “Sure! I’m willing!” But that is not always the case. Oftentimes there is resistance because we’ve lived with something for so long that it feels comfortable and well worn. To release it means stepping into the new and unfamiliar. And that can be uncomfortable or scary.
So what can you do?
First ask yourself if you’re willing.
And then listen to all your excuses, all your complaining, all your fear. Scribble it on paper. Maybe your inner child is the one that’s terrified and you can’t even hear the adult you.
Feel all that resistance. And know that you’re safe in the resistance. Even send it love. Give it a hug and say “Gosh, I don’t blame you for being scared.”
Write a love letter to that inner child. Write a love letter to yourself. Muster all the compassion you have and rest your hand on your heart.
And that’s what you do. Be willing to do that.
Curious where to go from there? Schedule your Complimentary Clarity call and let’s talk. Looking forward to connecting with you! Your willingness shows 🙂