Manifest This Way!
Dear Awesome Woman,
When the compare and despair ‘nip it in the bud’ phrase of December’s newsletter (“Nip Compare and Despair in the Bud with this One Little Phrase”) doesn’t work for you because the situation is rubbing salt in a wound that’s deep, then it’s time for a little discovery work. Sometimes you just have to play in the muck and mire of envy, jealousy and compare to get to hidden golden nuggets. This is also a great way to manifest what you’re desiring.
So, what are the hidden golden nuggets in comparing yourself to someone else?
Ask yourself this question: what is it that I think that they have, that they’re doing, that they’re shining that I want?
Is it popularity, money, success, love, looks, a successful project, a successful career, a successful relationship?
Great! Deciphering which thing it is that you want, that it seems that the other person has, leads you to a golden nugget.
Now, with that golden nugget, describe the feeling sensation, using adjectives and body sensation words, that you get in imagining that you have that thing too.
For example, someone looks super smiley and happy with their hubby while you’re going through some bumpy times and not liking your husband in the moment. There’s your golden nugget—you want a better feeling relationship with the man you married.
Now, take that information and using a few adjectives (this is based off of a Martha Beck tool and she suggests three) to describe how you would feel in a better relationship with your husband. Would you feel light, expansive, secure? Would you feel settled, peaceful and calm?
Take those adjectives and notice where in instances in your relationship that you actually feel that way. Is it when you go shopping and there’s money to spend on the food because your husband is working? Is it when your husband says a kind word to your child, shovels the snow, pays a bill?
Then exhale and inhale a breath and recognize that you already have this ‘light, expansive, secure’ or ‘settled, peaceful and calm’ in your life.
Now, reach out your arms and intentionally welcome more of those feeling sensations into your relationship.
What this exercise does is:
- it affirms what you do have instead of believing that it’s lacking
- it energizes positive, high vibe feeling sensations into your cells
- it opens you up to welcoming more of what you already have into your life and being.
Because if you didn’t have it in you already, then you couldn’t project it outside of you. That goes for the good and the bad.
So, find the golden nugget that lurks within the compare and despair—notice what you’re desiring. Know that you have at least a tiny sliver of it in your life and then expand to welcome more of that good in.
Needing a hand? Schedule your Free Clarity Call today 🙂 As a Somatic Healer and Clarity Coach, I can guide you in aligning with your physical, emotional and intuitive wisdom, empowering you with clarity, vibrancy and peace-of-mind in your relationships, career and health. I’ll help empower you to break free of unhealthy relationship patterns, whether in your personal life or in your career. This could be specific to the toxic patterns in relationships with Borderline/Narcissists or other controlling personalities. Through learning to trust the wisdom of your body, emotions, soul, and intuition, you’ll discover a clear, healthy path to empowerment, vitality and joy.
Miriam Racquel (Meryl)
Somatic Healer & Clarity Coach