Mindbody Wellness Clarity Tip:
Jealousy— It’s Got A Secret For You
Dear Awesome Woman,
Jealousy. Who hasn’t felt that bug before? But the beauty of this often misunderstood emotion is that it has a secret for you. It represents a longing in your soul, an unfulfilled desire.
When a happy looking couple shows up on Facebook, all smiles and hugs, do you feel the pull of jealousy? Your soul may be telling you that something is missing in your most intimate relationship. But that pull is not meant to just be squashed, suppressed or ignored. Its secret, that it is whispering to you, is to do something about it. Take a path that leads you to healing, that leads your relationship to healing. Do something different than what you have been doing up until now.
When you see a woman who looks stunningly beautiful, do you feel the pull of jealousy? Your soul may be whispering to you to own your own beauty.
There may be a physical change to make—getting into healthier shape, getting a new haircut, clothing or makeup.
Or there could be nothing to do differently, but to own your beauty. To speak kindly to yourself, to cherish yourself, to be your own cheerleader. One practice that I invite my clients to do is to cheer themselves on. I ask them to put their hands up in the air and say: “Yay ___(their name)!” That 30 second action of celebrating themselves is gold in the bank of healing childhood wounds, low self-regard and dissatisfaction with who they truly are. So, please start practicing that yourself. There is beauty to behold in you—are you seeing it?
When you see a woman doing something in her career that you have often thought of doing yourself, do you feel the pull of jealousy? Look at where that pull is directed. Is it that you want to work from home? Is it that you desire to write more? Is it public speaking? Is it art or creativity?
Whatever it is that you identify as the thing that she is doing that you want to be doing, check in and see why you aren’t doing it. Are you making excuses, feeling limited, or stuck?
Little movements in a direction will take you where you are yearning to go. Martha Beck calls them ‘turtle steps.’ All you need to do is start taking ‘turtle steps’ in a direction that your soul is whispering through that pull of jealousy and you will get there. Keep believing in yourself, notice your body-sensations and if there is excitement, follow those bread crumbs and ignore your mind’s need to understand. You don’t need to answer your mind’s ‘why’, you just need to feel the pull of your soul when your body feels an uplift of joy from a sight you see, a class you notice, something that catches your eye and attention. You just may create a career that you love.
When you see someone seemingly (I say seemingly since you never know for sure, do you?) living a life of ease, joy and wealth, do you feel the pull of jealousy? Can you hear your soul’s whispers? Where and when can you ease up on yourself? What brings you joy? Do you notice the vital abundance in your life, in nature, in your being?
Simple collaging brought with it the healing power of creativity for my soul many years ago when my body was hurting with terrible aches and pains. Collaging became an obsession for me as I just started filling scrapbook albums with beautiful pictures and words that appealed to me. I collaged while dropping all ‘shoulds’ and just saying “ooh, I like that picture; I love that word; I love those colors.” My soul felt listened to and comforted.
‘Where your attention goes, your energy goes’ and so those pics on the collages began to show up for me in real life—gardens full of flowers, places that I actually travelled to and even clothes I wanted to wear. Try simple creativity and see where it takes you.
When the bug of jealousy threatens you, turn inward and listen to your soul’s whispers. What are you desiring and what little steps can you take to fulfill those yearnings? Try a few of the suggestions shared here and watch that jealousy dissolve.
Need a helping hand? Mindbody/ Somatic healing unravels the mystery of your mind, body, emotions and soul and brings wellness into your life and journey. As a Somatic Healer & Clarity coach, I specialize in personal coaching for women seeking more health and joy in their ever-changing lives. I can help you tap into your own abundant source of healing capabilities and intuitive wisdom to create wellness in your relationships, careers and health. Schedule your free Clarity Call today. Looking forward to hearing your voice 🙂
Love and Blessings,
Miriam Racquel (Meryl)
Somatic Healer & Clarity Coach