It is a Big Deal!
Love-Yourself-More Monday; Mindbody Wellness Tip #16
It is a Big Deal!
Dear Awesome Woman,
Welcome to Love-Yourself-More Monday. So glad that you are here 🙂
I was at a conference awhile ago and the presenter had us pick a partner to do an exercise with. The exercise required sharing a problem and so my partner began to explain that she was the sole supporter of her family which consisted of four children, a husband and two elderly grandparents. Because of her job, they had moved cross country and though she was happy with the pay raise, she had been feeling a lot of anxiety with the change. She would go to work and have trouble breathing, as well as a numbness in her chest. She felt distracted from the work that she needed to do.
As she spoke, she put her hands on her chest. I asked “are you having trouble breathing?” She nodded and then said that it wasn’t a big deal. My mouth almost gaped open with that last sentence. I didn’t feel that she was in any physical danger, but was shocked that with all that she was carrying on her shoulders, she could give herself (and me) the message that it wasn’t a big deal.
I was also saddened. Saddened that she wasn’t giving herself love and compassion for not only the physical reaction her body was having, but for not recognizing the very basic emotional reaction that having such responsibilities and change would bring up in someone. She was also a foreigner and English was not her first language, nor America her culture of origin. Wow. What a warrior and hero she was.
Though I was not supposed to bring my profession into the conference training, I couldn’t just sit there with what I know from a mindbody perspective. I told her that what she is feeling is a big deal. Emotions are ‘energy in motion’ so when we feel an emotion, it is an energy in our body. When we notice it, it can flow. I asked her to put her hands on her chest, this time with the intention of noticing the sensation—even to say to herself, “my chest feels numb, my breathing is short.” She closed her eyes and did so. After a moment of doing this, she visibly relaxed.
Then I mentioned that anxiety is made up of a few emotions—anger, sadness and fear. And that perhaps the move and stepping into a new position at work plus having so many people relying on her, surfaced those emotions. And right now they were sitting on her chest. Her face became softer and she opened up more that her husband was suffering from depression and unable to work. Being from the Philippines, a culture that did not recognize depression, she didn’t understand why he was behaving the way he was and felt frustrated. We then experimented with another exercise to get her some more relief and inner wisdom.
Awesome women, we carry so much in our lives. It is a big deal. Your feelings, your stresses, your challenges.
And you are doing the best you can with what you know. When you know better, you do better. Everything has it’s divine timing and there is so much mystery behind the scenes. Please give yourself compassion and love on your journey, a great big hug, and a deep inhale and long exhale. If you can bring in a compassionate angel or a spiritual mentor into your imagination that can be helpful too.
You never need to downplay your stuff. You are a big deal.
And please remember to surround yourself with beauty, with people you love and things you love. Wellness is your light and your journey.
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Miriam Racquel (Meryl)
Somatic Healer & Clarity Coach
“Each session with Miriam I become more deeply acquainted with my inner being both past and present. I am feeling an “at home” feeling in my body that I have never known. I have opened a beautiful space for my voice to be heard and for me to be seen as the kind sensitive soul that I am. Miriam’s intuitive wisdom and fail-proof techniques have allowed me to release deeply held feelings through my body and my voice creating space for my intuition and creativity to come through. I have tools to stay grounded.”
– L.A., Boston, MA