3 Marriage Magic Tips
Mindbody Wellness Clarity
Dear Awesome Woman,
I’ve been married for most of my adult life and for many of those years I did not follow nor even know of the Marriage Magic tips that I’m sharing with you here. And my marriage and health paid the price. Now, it’s been about eight years that I’ve been practicing these and what a difference! There are other Mindbody Wellness techniques I use as well—ones to clear resentment, deal with disappointment, own my shadows, set boundaries and limits, and practice major self-care—all that help create a home of greater emotional safety and love. And though I am not perfect and slip at times, the foundation is so much stronger that the slip up is only a minor bump on the road instead of leading to lost nights of sleep and conflict as in the past. I invite you to use these tips and know that each time practiced is a golden nugget in your marriage bank account.
1)Sacred Silence — If you can, try remaining silent when you feel the urge to correct the way your husband does something, wears something or speaks something. Sometimes as women we can think that “we know better”, but it’s a knock to our husband’s self-esteem to constantly correct him. Instead do an act of sacred silence.
2) Send Your Husband Appreciations —Throughout the week, share WhatsApp messages, texts, little notes or spoken words of gratitude towards your husband. It’s not only for his benefit in feeling like a star in your eyes, but it’s also a great habit for us to “never take anything for granted.” You can say thank you and add a quality or feeling to the appreciation—point out that when he listens to your worries, that you feel emotionally supported; when he takes the kids out to the park, you get the needed break that you so desperately desired; that when he does the shopping, you appreciate his dedication to the family; that when he works, that you appreciate him taking responsibility. By pointing out the little things that make him your hero, you’ll have a man who feels like he can make his wife happy. He’s getting the most important thing in life right and that is his relationship with you. Even if you feel disgruntled over the things he doesn’t do — these appreciations are like gold nuggets in your marriage bank account and things can shift for the better.
3) Your Feelings Count — Emotions are “energy in motion” and present as physical sensations in your body. When you put your awareness on them—the clenching of the jaw, the tension in the chest, the nervousness in the stomach—the energy flows. This benefits your body as well as provides important intuitive guidance for you that shows up as an image, a neutral thought or a word. This is also an act of self-compassion—taking the time to be honest with yourself and go within. We’re less likely to lash out at our husbands, when we are kind to ourselves.
Need a guiding hand? I invite you to schedule your Free Clarity call today. As a Somatic Healer, Clarity Coach and Relationship Expert, I help empower women to trust themselves through the wisdom of their bodies and intuition. Stress, pain and insomnia relief, career clarity, marriage magic for singles and couples, narcissistic relationship detoxing, and trauma processing can all be accomplished through Mindbody sessions over the phone. Download your free gift eguide: “3 Secrets to Solve Burnout and Get Energized the Mindbody Wellness Way.” More can be found at MiriamRacquel.com.
Miriam Racquel (Meryl)
Somatic Healer & Clarity Coach