There are a lot of things recently that may be grabbing your attention. And that’s an understatement.
It seems that the world is burning, literally and figuratively, and it can be hard to keep your center—and your attention—on that which gives you hope, joy and love.
Speaking personally, I’m finding myself knocked off center quite often and it is disconcerting. My brain and body get caught up in worry, fear, and the desire to know more. The news is compelling, people’s differing opinions are interesting, social media can be gripping. The fear out there is real and tangible as sirens can be heard and curfews in effect to keep stores and people safe.
But I have other things that I love to get busy with—practices that bring me joy, relationships that energize me and creative projects that are fun to do. I often marvel at my husband’s ability to compartmentalize. He is an avid reader of the news, active on Twitter and whatsapp groups. He is very aware of what is going on in the world. He does this because it interests him as well as helps him keep his family safe. And yet, it doesn’t stifle his ability to laugh, his ability to be creatively involved in his various projects and his ability to connect often and lovingly with his family and friends.
I know that I do not have a male brain that can compartmentalize worries—I have a female brain and a personality in which all my “computer windows are open” (“For Men Only,” by Shaunti and Jeff Feldhahn, p.42.). That being said, I do have the freedom to choose where my attention goes and conserve my energy for that which I love.
Are you struggling with similar issues? Getting caught up and worried about things you can’t control? Watching too much news and being involved in too many whatsapp groups— filling your body up with the cortisol and adrenaline of the fight and flight response?
If so, it’s time to reign in your energy and be directive of your attention. Choose wisely. Notice what happens to your body when you watch that news video, read that Facebook post, read those whatsapp messages. Does your jaw clench, your stomach tighten, your chest constrict, your breathing shallow? Listen to how your body says a resounding no!
Instead, bring your attention to noticing what does uplift your energy. What activities fill you with hope and energize you?
What relationships comfort you?
What settles your nervous system? Is it a walk near a stream or lake, a stroll in the woods or garden? Is it collaging, watercolor painting, listening to the laughter of children? Is it enjoying the sounds of early morning bird song, writing, gardening, taking pictures, talking with a friend?
Now it is crucial for us to become careful with our energy and become present in time and space. Our nervous systems need it. The world can feel very out of control and explosive, but our own home space may be very safe. Tune into the present moment.
Our eyes and ears are windows to our bodies and souls.
It is up to us to choose frequently what we let in through those gateways.
It is up to us to choose where we want our energy to go.
It is up to us to conserve our energy for that which we love.
I invite you to practice radical self-care. Here are some ideas:
Do a quick sense spot meditation where your eyes and body are tuned into present awareness—what do you hear when you listen as far as your ears can take you?; what is feeling up against your skin?—is it a gentle breeze or the comfort of cotton?; what do you see with your eyes looking straight ahead, yet taking in with soft vision what exists on each side of you—an expansive awareness.
What would be creatively fun to do? A simple art project or a collection of feathers, pretty stones or flowers to place in a vase?
Watch squirrels play.
If you enjoy planting flowers, have the intention that you are planting a new creative idea as you dig in the dirt and place the flower (an idea from Louise Hay).
Be kind to yourself. Speak with compassion and comfort to you. What is the kindest thing you can say to yourself? What would you say to a child who feels scared? Be a compassionate angel to yourself, put your hands on your heart and try whispering these words:
“I am here to support you.”
“I understand that things feel scary now.”
“Just breathe and notice your soles on the ground.”
“I love you.”
“There is good in the world. Notice the good.”
“Notice beauty, notice light.”
6. I do the ROAR! Process with my clients (and self and family members). It’s very helpful for releasing tension and the fight, flight and freeze response. I’m developing an eguide to share it, but meanwhile if you are finding yourself often anxious, filled with tension, grief and fear, please reach out and schedule your complimentary Clarity call today. Let’s see how we can work together with mindbody techniques to help your nervous system calm.
When we are able to bring peace into our little worlds, that energy radiates outward to the larger world.
Please forward to a friend and share the light of healing.
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