Choose Kind People in Your Life
Mindbody Wellness Clarity Tips
Dear Awesome Woman,
The other morning I had a virtual doctor’s appointment. The doctor got on the zoom without a smile, without a friendly, “How are you?”, without a kind presence. This was a doctor who is an expert in her field, but if I had more choices, I would not choose her as a care practitioner. Her bedside manner is sorely lacking, to say the least. And I’ve heard that that is a complaint of many of her patients.
I have a family member who suffers from autoimmune encephalitis (Pandas) and as the main caretaker, I show up first at the appointments to fill the doctor in on the dis-ease symptoms that are present or are lessening, before I bring the family member in to speak to the doctor. And I’m glad I do because the coldness on the doctor’s face is unnerving and since life is hard enough as it is, I would not want that family member to have to face that first thing. By the time I call that family member in to join us for the appointment, I’ve been on with the doctor for a while along with my wonderful patient advocate (a Pandas consultant) who I’ve hired just for these types of difficult circumstances. Wendy Nawara is kind, caring, compassionate, and has expertise and knowledge on the dis-ease subject that we are dealing with. She helps create a warm, supportive atmosphere and the doctor’s coldness does not dominate the call. I truly believe in the importance of surrounding myself and my loved ones with kind people.
So, how is the state of your life in terms of surrounding yourself with kind people? Full or a bit lacking? If there are holes, my suggestion is to seal them up.
How does one do that? A few years ago, I suffered from many mindbody symptoms. I didn’t know what it was at the time—I just kept running around to different doctors, massage therapists, chiropractors, and naturopaths to try to help cure me of the terrible aches and pains in my body, my low energy levels and the overall feeling of drain. All of these care practitioners were wonderful and helpful, but the pain would only subside temporarily. And then I’d be back in their offices again dealing with the same thing.
Little did I know that the real source causing the pain and drain was emotional. Though the pain itself was very physical (ouch!) the chiropractors, massage therapists, and medical experts could not fix the tension and low energy caused by my constant inner criticism, my being my own energy vampire (“Are You Your Own Energy Vampire?”), and my allowing emotional blackmail (“Emotional Blackmail—What Is It And Why You Need To Know About It”) to be a constant repeat in my life.
At some point, the massage therapist put her hands on me and said, “You are empty. You have nothing more to give.” I realized then that I had to make some major shifts in my life. It started me on a self-help journey which led to becoming a coach and somatic healer. Those aches and pains went away as did the drain.
The most important shift that I made was how I spoke to and treated myself as well as how I allowed others to treat me. I chose to only be in kindness with myself and surround myself with kindness. The inner leads to the outer. The kind and compassionate way that we treat ourselves reverberates outwards and then the people coming into our lives are kinder, even those who have been there for years. It’s almost like there’s an energy code surrounding you that says, “only kindness belongs here.” And then it does.
We are all walking nervous systems. When we are with people who are critical, unkind, judgy, petty, catty, or downright mean, our nervous systems react. They either shut down (freeze) or want to run from danger or fight the danger. Our bodies get filled with cortisol, adrenaline, and tension. We can’t do that to ourselves—we can’t remain in these kinds of situations and think that our health won’t be affected negatively.
You can’t do that to yourself. You are of infinite worth, are put here on the planet for a beautiful mission of sharing light. If your energy and light are dimmed or suppressed by others (including yourself!) then you are not fulfilling your purpose.
Make a choice today to treat yourself kinder and to only surround yourself with kind people. Will that path be perfect? No—the universe is not perfect, but your intention and your actions can create tremendous shifts that will benefit your health.
Here are some resources to help you on your journey:
Go ahead and enjoy how your world shifts to one filled with more kindness! Your energy will surge as it reaps the benefits!
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Sharing a few testimonials from clients whose lives have been transformed and you can check out more @ Client Love:
“I never realized that being kind to myself was such a challenge. I never realized how much peace and clarity it could bring. Most importantly I am learning how to trust my intuition again. And I also noticed that I did not feel depressed, a feeling which I associated with my situation. I still see what I am lacking, yet I don’t turn to blame or despair. I know there are ways to get answers. I felt that Miriam truly listened in a non-judgemental way. I felt that I could talk to her about anything. She was very flexible in changing directions of our sessions, adjusting to what was needed to be addressed at a given moment.” – L., New York
“I had been having frequent bladder issues and after doing some research, I came across the information that this could be happening due to my inability to process emotions such as anger and stress. I did notice that they were coming after particularly stressful times and after reading the Mind Body Prescription, I decided to seek out a coach who specialized in this type of healing. Each session I had with her was really powerful and impactful. I would highly recommend (and have!) that anyone struggling with mindbody pain, work with Miriam.” – M.L., Oklahoma
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