Tuesday Somatic Wellness Tip #43: “Wrong Meaning, Wrong Feeling”
Clarity, Healing, Relief, Intuition
Dear Awesome Woman,
When we give something the wrong meaning, we get the wrong feeling. This is from a teaching of the spiritual lecturer, Gedale Fenster.
I’ll give an example though I believe that we can all recognize this teaching oftentimes in our lives:
Recently, I took a work/vacation trip with my hubby. We rented an Airbnb on Key Biscayne, Florida so we were minutes from the beach and could watch the sunrises and sunsets as well as be close to Miami where I sold my book, God Said What?! #MyOrthodoxLife, on a Sunday at the Miami Book Fair. It was fun meeting new readers, having connecting conversations and enjoying the beauty of nature in the warmth of the sun.
One thing that I don’t usually enjoy about these out-of-town trips is the flying factor to get to there. I prefer to be on the ground rather than 35,000 feet off the ground in a plane. I especially don’t enjoy turbulence when the plane swings right and left, up and down through the air which is what happened for about an hour during this last trip.
The blessing is that I don’t suffer from motion sickness which I am grateful for as I witnessed a neighboring passenger undo her seatbelt countless times and make an unsteady run down the narrow aisle for the bathroom as fast as her feet could carry her.
What I do suffer from however is a tightening of my whole body as I grip my psalm book tightly and dig my heels into the floor as if bracing my body can actually steady the plane. It does not.
However, as the plane bounced around in the air, and I realized that my clenching and bracing were doing no good whatsoever, I had a conversation with myself. The amazing thing about being a healer and coach is that all those lovely methods I use to help my clients, I can use to help myself.
The inner dialogue went like this:
“Miriam Racquel — the tightening of your eyes, grounding of your heels and uplifting of your shoulders are all going to result in some very funky mindbody symptoms if you don’t relax now. A migraine, neck ache, sciatica etc. is not fun to come home with from a wonderful trip. You’ve heard before that not only are planes built and tested to withstand tremendous rough weather, but turbulence is described as potholes by pilots. It’s not comfortable, it’s very bumpy, but not dangerous. RELAX your body and go into the sensations instead of resisting the sensations.”
And that is what I did. Instead of fighting against the flow of movement, I let myself relax and sway. I went with the flow of the plane’s sensations.
Eventually, we passed through the rough spots and landed safely. I did my body and myself a favor by changing the meaning of what was going on. Instead of holding onto the wrong belief that “turbulence = guaranteed danger, disaster, and death,” I chose a more “truthful” belief that experts of the air have shared — “turbulence = potholes — though uncomfortable, not unsafe.”
Somatic Wellness Tips for Today?
1. Cave early — be careful about what you resist since resistance can lead to Mindbody pain symptoms.
2. What in your life are you giving the wrong meaning to? Can you choose a more truthful belief? Your nervous system and body need to “hear” the truth from you. Like kinesiology, my somatic healing works the same way. With kinesiology, the body reacts with weakness (arm goes down) when a food that is unhealthy for the person is held close. With my Somatic Healing, when the client believes an unhealthy thought (“I’m a terrible …,” I am doing this all wrong…” “I should…”), the body reacts negatively and the nervous system exudes cortisol and adrenaline (stress hormones).
3. Lean into your emotions. Emotions are “energy in motion” and are felt in the body as physical sensations. Lean in and learn how to process so you don’t react explosively or implosively or get stuck in that energy. That’s what Somatic Healing is all about—surfing the waves of life with tools that help us thrive.
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